If I have ever misgendered someone I am sorry. So if I have misgendered you, many apologies. I understand completely the importance of pronoun. It is not my intent to disrespect, demean, or hurt anyone, and certainly not based on their gender, pronoun, transgender identity,…
You continue to think some half-assed generic apology on tumblr magically absolves you of all the shit you’ve done. You’ve already burnt your bridges with our community, you are not an ally of trans women. We’re tired of you constantly trying to impose yourself on our struggles and speak for us. We can speak for ourselves, we don’t need some rich white person dictating how they think we should be and how we should live our lives.
You seem to think you can boil an issue as complex as gender down to a simple issue of what pronouns someone goes by. That’s extremely problematic. People’s identities aren’t encapsulated in simplistic words like pronouns that come from a language that evolved within the confines of a gender binary.
You seem to think you can dismiss and discredit people’s identities based on pronouns people use. This analysis is a product of coming from a place of unchecked privilege, you don’t face the threat of imminent violence so you dismiss the dangers others face. In Virginia using certain pronouns in public can put transwomen’s lives in serious danger. Are you so quick to forget the transwomen who disappeared or were brutally murdered in Virginia? Their killers walk free and the culture that led to their murders is still a threat to all of us. Neither the police nor so-called radicals such as yourself are doing a damn thing to bring them justice or make Virginia safer for transwomen.
Demanding people to use certain pronouns to validate their identity is not ok. Trying to force people to out themselves to the public and their families when it puts them in serious danger IS NOT OK! Trying to dismiss people’s identities because they aren’t meeting the criteria you set for when and where they use certain pronouns IS NOT OK! STOP!!!
You don’t accidentally misgender people. You intentionally misgender people you know are trans to hurt them. You devoted most of a zine to intentionally misgendering someone. We don’t want your half-assed apologies. We don’t want you pretending to be our ally. We want you to leave us and our community alone. Quit trying to speak about us and speak for us. It is not your place to dictate what path we take to liberation. It is not your place to dictate what our liberation will look like. Quit putting the lives of transwomen at risk!
If Mo wants to be an ally of trans people it is going to take a hell of a lot more that just showing up to a vigil and a memorial service with some fancy words.
The presence of Mo is not a welcome one for all attendees of such events.
Mo can talk solidarity with transgender folks in Richmond, but they fail when it comes to walking the walk.
As long as Mo only gives us fancy words and handshakes on tumblr and Internet articles transgender people will suffer. In this case, suffering means being harassed, assaulted, homeless, sick, poor, raped, and murdered. This is a matter of life and death, which is why Mo constantly posting things about trans issues on the internet while engaging in rampant trans-misogyny in real life is so insulting.
There, I fixed some parts of your article to shed more light on the truth of the situation. As someone who has regularly threatened people in the trans community with violence in the past I don’t think it’s your place to speak on our behalf.
You have done enough damage to trans women in Richmond already. Quit trying to use us as a plug to push your personal agendas. You have refused to apologize for or be held accountable for all the transmisogyny you have engaged in over the years. You claim the house you own is safe for trans people but every trans woman who has been tricked into living there has been subjected to emotional abuse at your hands. You have consistently attacked people for how they identify themselves, tried to dictate how they must live their lives to be valid in your eyes, shamed them for their emotional struggles and the difficulties they face. You try to force people to out themselves when it can place them in serious risk of violence and death.
When we call you out on your actions you refuse to be held accountable or right the wrongs you have done. Every time someone calls you out you claim they’re verbally abusing you, no matter how polite or non-confrontationaly they go about it. You borrow the radfem’s tactic and claim you’re being attacked by mysogynystic men. You claim everything people say about you is lies and then go around attacking the credibility and identities of the people who speak out against your actions. You try to create divisions in the community and spread lies to try to turn people against each other.
We’re tired of you and the toxic relations you try to create in our community. You do not speak for trans women. You are not a part of our community. Quit trying to impose yourself upon our struggles. Quit trying to speak over us and silence our voices. Take your white savior complex somewhere else. We will find our liberation on our own terms. You are an unwelcome cancer.
Neil Patrick Harris & David Burtka were Tweedledee and Tweedledum, their son Gideon dressed as the White Rabbit, and daughter Harper was Evil Alice for the Alice in Wonderland theme, at a school Halloween party - Oct 19, 2013
Now, can we please once and for all acknowledge that TERFs (trans* exclusionary radical feminists) are violent with criminal intent, purposefully harming trans* people either through rhetoric, or, like in this case above, direct, material harm? One of the arguments we hear from TERFs is that they are not violent, they merely “disagree” with trans* people’s existence. As this case exemplifies, this is not the case, Cathy Brennan, aka Bug Brennan on Tumblr, Twitter, Facebook, etc, invented lies to have a trans* girl’s access to school facilities removed. She went as far as associating with an anti gay hate group to achieve this.
Next time a TERF demands proof that they are violent (something they are keen on doing when confronted with their awfulness and hatred), just send them this link. Cathy Brennan, one of their loudest representatives will go as far as harassing teens in their school. If that is not a hate crime, I don’t know what it is.
Korean artist Yong Ho Ji recycles old tires by transforming them into dramatic sculptures like the awesome animals seen here. The lion sculpture at the top of this post was photographed by Redditor m1keyth at the at the Beyond Limits sculpture expo in Chatsworth, UK.